Its been 2 months since my Mom's passing. Time feels like its been going by so slowly, at a snails pace. I am the eldest child, and the "responsible one" so Mom left it up to me to Execute her trust.
Wonderful. We all have nightmarish times in life, but this takes the cake.
So many problems to deal with, I feel so overwhelmed. Fortunately, as God would have it, I have a sister in my congregation who is great with settling the affairs of the passing of loved ones. However, even she admits that working on all of this paperwork is a nightmare. What seems like a simple form turns into an all day project. Living with Momma in a home in which she had to put it on a reverse mortgage or lose our home makes all of this legal mumbo jumbo that much more difficult.
Brian, my brother and I have 6 weeks to get out of the house. How to do that on Bri's disability payment and I still have no income. Mom left just enough money for me not to be able to buy a single-wide modular home, travel trailer etc... But enough to cause a problem with SSI. I have to legally get rid of money in order to apply for SSI. What a bunch of bureaucratic red tape Mom got me into...geez. I know she did her best by us, but bless her dear heart, she messed up big time. I feel I am into all this Legal Trust crap up to my neck and its overwhelming me.
Then thinking about leaving the home and memories created in our home. Wow! We had a lot of laughter, tears, fights, making up but mostly LOVE. Without Mom's presence here, there is definitely an emptiness to the home. As belongings are packed away, its becoming more of a house. Its losing the loving atmosphere Momma provided. Even though I know other folks have gone through something like what I am going through now, I wouldn't wish this mess on my worst enemy!
Tuesday, January 27, 2015
Thursday, December 4, 2014
Wish for a Parents Passing....
Wow. I didn't suspect that when I started this blog not too long ago that my Caregiving would end so soon.
My Mom passed away on Nov. 25th 2014, she put up a good fight for the love of her family and friends. Shortly before she died, she reached out for me as though she was making sure I was there with her so she wouldn't be alone. I think she feared being alone when she died. It was an honor to have her for my Mother, BFF and Caregiver. She slipped gently into sleep, just as she was hoping she would do when her time of death came to her.
Mom, my brother and I lived with Mom in her home. No matter where Mom was living, her house was always home, a soft place to fall.
In the week since her death, our home has become a house. Her presence is no longer here. The love, warmth, and happiness is gone. Our home is now a shell of a house. The funny thing is, this is just now I feel. I am a shell of a person now, not knowing what to do with my time now that my caregiving work is done.
God has a new journey for me now. I have my Brother, Shih Tzu and Kitten to care for. I promised Mom I will begin living a new life now. I have more time than I know what to do with, so I started reconnecting with friends that I couldn't do because Mom's health situation took most of my time.
Wherever Gods my family and I, I pray we stay together, happy and feeling loved.
I'm closing this blog now, ready to begin "A New Normal"
My Mom passed away on Nov. 25th 2014, she put up a good fight for the love of her family and friends. Shortly before she died, she reached out for me as though she was making sure I was there with her so she wouldn't be alone. I think she feared being alone when she died. It was an honor to have her for my Mother, BFF and Caregiver. She slipped gently into sleep, just as she was hoping she would do when her time of death came to her.
Mom, my brother and I lived with Mom in her home. No matter where Mom was living, her house was always home, a soft place to fall.
In the week since her death, our home has become a house. Her presence is no longer here. The love, warmth, and happiness is gone. Our home is now a shell of a house. The funny thing is, this is just now I feel. I am a shell of a person now, not knowing what to do with my time now that my caregiving work is done.
God has a new journey for me now. I have my Brother, Shih Tzu and Kitten to care for. I promised Mom I will begin living a new life now. I have more time than I know what to do with, so I started reconnecting with friends that I couldn't do because Mom's health situation took most of my time.
Wherever Gods my family and I, I pray we stay together, happy and feeling loved.
I'm closing this blog now, ready to begin "A New Normal"
Monday, June 23, 2014
Getting to know you...
To see Mom and I together say in my childhood years until my mid-40's you wouldn't think we were Mother and Daughter based on our personalities.
In my "younger years" I was rather introverted and shy. Yes, even more so than I am now, if you can believe it. I was quiet and calm, wanting to read, color or play by myself as a child. I had a few friends some I still have now and I still cherish their friendship. They were more extroverted than I was/am and therefore, balanced me and brought me out of my shell.
About Mom. To give you an idea of her personality, I asked her if she'd like to start a blog for the rest of the "caregivers in the world" just to share funny stories or how we get through some of our more difficult times. Of course, I'd like to share YOU. I truly believe God placed you on this earth to make people laugh and would you mind if I tell some of the pranks you pulled as you were growing up?
Her answer was, "Are you sure people can handle it?" "I hope so, Mom." I replied.
Today, we discussed what life would be like if we were sisters or friends. We decided that our personalities are so opposite ends of the spectrum that she would have scared the pee-waddin' out of me. She was a rebel out to peeve off anyone of authority, with the exception of my Great Grandparents whom she had ultimate respect.
So, how did this wild child, rebel with a cause and a shy introvert become so close that each one knows the other is in desperate need without seeing the other? How did we become just a heartbeat away from the other?
Stay tuned... ;)
In my "younger years" I was rather introverted and shy. Yes, even more so than I am now, if you can believe it. I was quiet and calm, wanting to read, color or play by myself as a child. I had a few friends some I still have now and I still cherish their friendship. They were more extroverted than I was/am and therefore, balanced me and brought me out of my shell.
About Mom. To give you an idea of her personality, I asked her if she'd like to start a blog for the rest of the "caregivers in the world" just to share funny stories or how we get through some of our more difficult times. Of course, I'd like to share YOU. I truly believe God placed you on this earth to make people laugh and would you mind if I tell some of the pranks you pulled as you were growing up?
Her answer was, "Are you sure people can handle it?" "I hope so, Mom." I replied.
Today, we discussed what life would be like if we were sisters or friends. We decided that our personalities are so opposite ends of the spectrum that she would have scared the pee-waddin' out of me. She was a rebel out to peeve off anyone of authority, with the exception of my Great Grandparents whom she had ultimate respect.
So, how did this wild child, rebel with a cause and a shy introvert become so close that each one knows the other is in desperate need without seeing the other? How did we become just a heartbeat away from the other?
Stay tuned... ;)
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